Now That You Have ‘Changed’ — Has Your Life Improved
Does Your Personal Inventory Show Improvement
While self-healing, it is important to monitor your progress. Are you moving forward or have you strayed away from the goal? It is so easy to fall back into old habits. By regularly revisiting your personal inventory you can assess your personal growth and see how far you have come from step number 1.
My Personal Battle With Keeping A Personal Inventory
To get to where I am now, I had to make some bold and risky decisions! I had no plan, just a ‘sense’ of how I wanted to live the rest of my life. And ever since, I have allowed that ‘sense’ to guide me. That same ‘sense’ alerts my consciousness when I am on the right track and when I am not.
The first time I looked back at my personal inventory, I was proud to see that I had accomplished a couple of the things from my list that I wanted to change. Even though making those changes caused some after effects, overall, I was satisfied with my success.
Thinking back to when I wrote down my goals, I remember feeling like the list was too long and impossible to carry out. But seeing my improvements gave me a jolt of inspiration to keep pushing forward. It also allowed me to see that I was capable of acknowledging and controlling my actions instead of resorting to old habits.
Heal’n My Personal Inventory
I regularly check-in to my personal index to remind myself of the defects I have mastered and pay attention to those I am currently working on. Years later, I still continue to revisit my list to check off the ones I am doing better with and to add new issues that I observe during self-reflection.
Even though I have gained control of most of my imperfections, I still have to manage my behavior and how I react to certain situations that trigger my faults. For example, below I have shared one of my faults and how I am STILL trying to get it under control.
Fault #4: My heart is the weakest part of me. I chase and attach to others to feel loved. I am too hasty with commitment.
Several years after my break up I had my first encounter with someone that I was willing to accept affection from. Almost immediately I was all in. Weeks later the person turned out to not be a good match for me. Again, I was brokenhearted. Why? Because I was chasing a feeling and the person that gave it to me. This is the most complex fault I have to overcome. I have to constantly work on it or I will continue to break my own heart.
Was it the other person’s fault? No! I was disappointed because I allowed myself to be sucked in so quickly. Eventually, I let go. I gave myself some credit for not continuing to chase her, but at the same time I was upset that I got sucked in so easily.
I will continue to work on being more selective with who I decide to socially get involved with and try to understand what I am actually feeling and why. My self- improvement is constant and ongoing!
Step: #10 Continue to take personal inventory and when you are wrong admit it.
Remember For Your Heal’n
Accept who you are and what you are trying to do. Some faults will be more difficult to overcome than others. If they are too overwhelming, turn them over to God and move forward. Keep a journal to record your feelings of anger, fear and frustration. Stay grounded in your convictions and analyze your efforts.
Taking responsibility for how you conduct yourself is key. No matter how unpleasant someone else is, keep your focus on controlling your actions to those things that bring out the worst in you. Always aim to be the best version of you. And when you slip, because you will, forgive yourself and apologize to others for your mistakes.
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